The Most Important Trait for Becoming Successful is also the Hardest to Acquire

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1. Seek out feedback and show that you embrace it

One of the easiest ways to get better at receiving feedback is to practice it like any other skill. Too often people get accustomed to the one-yearly performance review from their boss as their only source of feedback, which is why this becomes such an unpleasant experience.

2. Make your request for feedback more specific

One big mistake people make when asking for feedback is making their request too general. Questions like, “How am I doing?” or “What do you think of this?” are too open-ended and it’s like the person giving feedback will respond with unclear advice.

3. Listen more, talk less

Probably the hardest and most important part of receiving feedback is to simply listen and accept it. Don’t get defensive, don’t try to justify your behavior and especially don’t get angry and critical of the other person.

“Feedback can be threatening because it prompts questions about the most challenging relationship you have: your relationship with yourself.” — Thanks for the Feedback

People often let emotions take over when asking for feedback and at the first mention of something negative our ears stop listening. This is what prevents them from being able to learn from and grow their weaknesses. If it helps, try asking for the feedback in written form first so you have time to reflect on it before talking to that person to ask for clarification.

4. Develop a growth mindset

Feedback of any kind is never easy to accept. It starts in school the first time you work really hard on a project only to get a bad grade from your teacher. I saw this from students when I was a teacher: people get scared of feedback because it becomes associated with failure.

Stories of a former high school teacher, now business consultant. Husband. Travel fanatic. Obsessed coffee drinker. And all-around nerd.

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