What Happens When We Stop Seeking Validation on Social Media

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1. You live your truth

Nowadays, it’s far too easy to sacrifice our own needs and desires in order to please other people around us. We make every attempt to portray our lives as perfect on social media all the while hiding our true feelings. We’ve all developed FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out), because our social media feeds inundate us with happy updates from our “friends”.

“Your focus is to improve yourself, without competing or comparing yourself with anyone. Our true comparison is with our own better or ideal self.” — Lisa Leong

2. You gain confidence

Self-confidence is one of the keys to a happy and fulfilling life. Yet when we base our worth on “likes” and comments from others on social media, we reduce our self-confidence and begin to question our choices. Instead of relying on others to give us the confidence we need, it’s important to remember that the expectations we set for ourselves are what ultimately matter. We need to take a step back and re-attune ourselves to listen to our own inner voices. In doing so, we can gain back the meaning behind our actions and project ourselves confidently in the direction we choose.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

3. You experience “ikigai”

Maybe you’ve never heard of this Japanese word for “a reason for being” or what author of the book Awakening Your Ikigai Ken Mogi defines as “a reason to get up the morning”. The desire to experience “ikigai” is embedded in the Japanese culture, but its meaning is a part of all humans. We all instinctively need a purpose to drive our work every day. That’s why recognition for our work is so important, because it reinforces our purpose. But, as Mogi points out, experiencing true worth — or “ikigai” — is achieved by being in the here and now and releasing yourself from the expectations of others.

“If you can make the process of making the effort your primary source of happiness, then you have succeeded in the most important challenge of your life.” — Ken Mogi

Source: Toronto Star

4. You develop a growth mindset

Another big important contributor to success in life is the ability to persevere through life’s challenges and failures. This what Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck refers to as “growth mindset” and it’s an attribute that must be developed, like any other skill or ability. Too often, however, we limit ourselves because we’re afraid of failing in front of others or risking losing their approval. Again, it’s innate to who we are as humans, which makes it so hard to overcome.

What did you learn today? What mistake did you make that taught you something? What did you try hard at today? Carol Dweck

“Work hard in silence, let your success be your noise.” ― Frank Ocean

Stories of a former high school teacher, now business consultant. Husband. Travel fanatic. Obsessed coffee drinker. And all-around nerd.

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